An interesting topic and is necessary for anyone looking to improve their lives. A commenter read our post on the importance of becoming known at your favorite spot within a short cab ride of your place. So how does one become known quickly without the hassle of having a harem already? Please read below for the walk through for beginners.
1) Find a Food and Dance Joint. The ideal place is a food venue/dance club. This means they serve food, however at night it turns into a night club. The reason why is you can practice getting to know the people before the club gets rocking and you can also leverage your new notoriety when you eat at the same venue as well.
2) Dress Sharp. If you are not a multi-millionaire you don’t need to wear a $5,000 suit, simply dress slightly above the clientele at the venue. If everyone is wearing jeans and polo shirts, you’re better off with a button down and fitted slacks. If it’s a grimey hipster spot, a clean v-neck and fitting jeans will be just fine.
3) Enter With Positivity. Walk in the door and smile, immediately find a bar seat that also will serve appetizers from as low as fries at a low-end spot to as high as oyster shots at a high end spot. As soon as you walk in solo if you are well dressed the initial interaction will be curiosity instead of pity.
4) Find Men and Tip Before Service. You read that correctly. Go online and see the prices of the food if you know you’ll be spending $50 on the food, take out $30 and throw it on the table. You **trust** their service so you are tipping them upon hello. This leads to a natural conversation later. Men will be shocked at your generosity, usually only attractive girls receive such attention. But you don’t think like everyone else.
5) Name, Where, When and How? This is the structure to your bar conversation. You start with their name and quickly ask where they are from. **listen carefully** attempt to make a positive connection with their hometown. If you have not been there attempt to make some sort of positive connection anyway. If you’ve never left your three block radius of your home… You got work to do.
6) Relax. Sometimes, when we are out of our comfort zone, we can easily revert to being an introvert (aka a loser). Remember, immediately become lose and funny (and/or charming) in your new environment as if you were surrounded by your closest friends. People in the “night industry” most often forget names – and understandably so, so building rapport quickly is important. Remember, it is important to have a vertical approach, from door man to hostess to bartenders.
7) Remember Their Names Too. Yes we generally all suck at this and it needs to be repeated. Immediately (within 5 sec) after meeting people in the industry, we jot down their names in Evernote, or notepad. How does this come in handy? As the night progresses, and you meet prospects, offer to buy them a drink. If they accept, go to your new bartender person, quickly introduce her to the bartender “hey Mike (bartender), this is Lisa (whatever)”, as if you actually know the bartender well. Now you’re laying the foundation to establish relationships (vertical approach), a routine (random girls) and **status**.
Even if they left and dislike it, attempt to make one positive association. When was he born? If his birthday is coming up you’re in luck. Take out that fancy iPhone, add his name and calendar alert for birthday. Everyone no matter how “cool” they are enjoy being wished a happy birthday.
That about does it guys. As you all know, when we get to 500 Twitter followers we will be doing five **Free** resume reviews once the threshold is broken.
Slay on Slayers.
